Connecting to Your Soul’s Essence

Soul essence is a combination of our body language, the types of music we like, the types of personalities we resonate with, our hobbies, and the distinctive qualities of our communication.

Soul essence means that we connect with people through an invisible cord. This cord is the basis of human connection. When we connect with others, we feel something new and special about them. But the truth is that it is not the other person we are responding to; it is an aspect of our own psyche, soul, or personality. Others are simply offering us a mirror in which to see the truth about ourselves.

The principle is this: what we like about others may be something we have not yet recognized in ourselves—our talents, skills, or abilities. What we dislike about others may reflect a dark energy within our psyche that we have not yet integrated. For example, if we dislike it when someone reacts angrily, perhaps we have not yet integrated our own rage. I am not talking about extreme anger, such as deliberately raging in order to hurt others. Our anger and rage can be sources of power that help us set boundaries with others. We may not yet know how to use this direct energy to set boundaries clearly—to say yes or no. Anger can serve this purpose, though many people do not realize it.

So, when we are triggered by someone who angrily sets their boundaries, it may mean that we need to integrate our own rage—our own inner Hitler—and learn to use it in certain situations. The situations in which we use this direct energy will differ from person to person, because everyone’s boundaries are different. In most cases, no one else can tell you when to use it.

When we heal our triggers—what makes us feel well or unwell—we may find a state of deep inner peace, calm, and relaxation. When the dark side of our psyche is integrated, we can feel more whole and recognize which energy is ours and which belongs to someone else. In this way, we can more easily recognize our true soul essence.

Once recognized and integrated, soul essence is one of the most beautiful parts of ourselves. It is something we may have dreamed of our whole lives, and it needs to be expressed. It will always find ways to come out.

Soul essence can be compared to perfume. We all have a favorite perfume that smells good to us and feels specific and special. In the same way, we are all special. That specialty is something the whole world is waiting for. When people see our unique qualities—our true soul essence—it may inspire an awakening in us. We may then find it harder to hide our own essence beneath layers of conditioning. We can begin to release those patterns and uncover the truth within themselves.

This soul essence is a gift from God. It consists of the skills, talents, and abilities we carry. God gave each of us these gifts. For example, Thomas may have a gift for speaking. He speaks well, enjoys it, and uses his voice and words to heal others. Lucy may have a gift for dancing. When she dances, she feels free, and those watching her may feel inspired or gain insight into new ways of moving, because her style of dance is special.

I truly believe that expressing our soul essence to others is something we were born to do. When others show us different possibilities, we can adjust our lives and learn something new. We can respond differently, see life from a different perspective, and incorporate aspects of other people’s personalities into our own. In real life, it may seem as though we have developed a new personality—which is, in a sense, what is happening. We adopt new qualities, and they show up in different situations.

In this way, we evolve. This is the main reason we were born on Earth: not to remain the same as we were when we arrived, but to reach the other side more unique, enlightened, wise, and free.